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CATEGORIES OF LIES

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    I’m lying here in the dark thinking of something that rings in my head over and over. Why do we tell lies? Why are we economical with the truth even when it clearly hurts us? Why do we cow out of situations and make excuses instead of dropping the bomb called truth?
I always find myself wishing there were surveillance cameras in africa as much as abroad because I don’t think anybody understands how angry I feel when someone suggests/insinuates that I am telling a lie at some point. Make no mistake about it,im not playing little mis perfect. I do tell little white lies, but not when a matter is material.
  On that note I have decided to classify lies because sometimes, we do things and get away with them without realising the gravity of their effects and how they affect others(yes I know the difference between affect and effect).I’d keep it brief and as concise as possible. Some categories may overlap others,so please pay attention.
1) Blatant lies : it’s clearly a lie. You meant/intendend/purposed to lie. It could have been pre-meditated or express. Bottom line,you chose to with hold the truth for reasons best known to you.
2) Half truths: you are aware that saying the whole truth may implicate you . So you give a misleading statement that includes some element of truth. For example, I brag to my friends:  “we were partying with wizkid last night at the club”. While it may be true that Wizkid was present at the club at the same time as me, it doesn’t necessarily mean we were partying together in the same sense as I portrayed it. Am I making sense?
3) Omission: has elements of deception. Usually in a bid to make us look good. For example, I’m narrating a story to prove that my friend is a bad person,and I tell how she goes clubbing every other day and dates multiple men at a time- and I fail to mention that I accompany her to her escapades and have fun even if I don’t indulge in her activities. 
  4) Jokes : has someone ever confirmed your fear or suspiscion about something,anything, just to end it with “I’m only joking/just kidding”? Yeah then you definitely understand this point.
5) Misrepresentation. You feel pain or hurt and you call it hunger. No dear you are an emotional eater. You eat more in distress. You are not true to yourself. If you were, you will address the circumstance instead of gaining weight unnecessarily. Somebody annoyed you and you transfer your aggression unto the next person that crosses your path and spoil their mood and possibly day. You were a coward. Had you sorted out the issue with your offender, you would not offend your victim.

    If I made any sense to you, then you will agree with me that sometimes we lie and don’t even realise it. We lie to ourselves and others and cause so much damage in the process. We lie for diverse reasons: to avoid wrath, to dodge difficult situations, to protect ourselves or others, by not saying what we mean or meaning what we say, bottom line, we lie! We just do! The sad part is one lie breeds multiple others to back up the originall lie.
   Life is good when you have nothing to hide. Say the truth and be at peace -with yourself and others. Hold your head high knowing you have done what will set you free long term. It begins with you- if you can be honest with yourself, you will extend it to others. Tell the truth people! Calll a thing a thing! (in Iyanla Vanzant’s voice). One of my favourite quotes has always been:
   TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE.
I love y’all. Remember the cup is alway half full! Xoxo

SMART PHONES AND STUPID PEOPLE?!

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Happy new week, Les gens!
I came across something today, it is food for thought, and I will be selfish if I don’t share this with you. If I am to spend some time on an island, and I’m asked to bring just one item with me, I won’t think twice before answering “my phone!”.    Don’t lie, because that is exactly what you’d say.
No chake (check) am now! (ibo accent). My phone has a bible, a dictionary, multiple social media, HD apps, books -in fact a library, and the list goes on. I’d like you to read the following text, ponder, and then make adjustments! Enjoy! The cup is always half full!!

    ” This is the paradox of our times.
We have taller buildings, but shorter tempers
Wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints
We spend more, but we have less.
We have bigger houses, but smaller families
More conveniences, but less time.
We have more degrees, but less sense
More knowledge, but less judgment
More experts, but more problems
More medicines, but less wellness.
We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values.
We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often
We have learnt how to make a living, but not a life.
We have added years to life, but not life to years.
We’ve been all the way to the moon and back
But have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbor.
We have conquered outer space, but not inner space.
We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted our soul.
We’ve split the atom, but not our prejudice.
We’ve higher incomes, but lower morals.
We’ve become long on quantity but short on quality.
These are the times of tall men, and short character;
Steep profits, and shallow relationships.
These are the times of world peace, but domestic warfare,
More leisure, but less fun; more kinds of food, but less nutrition.
These are the days of two incomes, but more divorces;
Of fancier houses, but broken homes.
It is a time when there is much in the show window, and nothing in the stockroom.
A time when technology can bring this letter to you,
And a time when you can choose,
Either to change… or just hit, delete.”

-Dr. Bob Moorehead

LONG DISTANCE MARRIAGES

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Hey y’all how you doing (Wendy Williams’ voice and gesture)? Hope you did rest sufficiently during the holiday. I know some people partied so hard, they literally called Tuesday Monday!
Well well,unto the business of the day, I was watching moments with mo, and the topic was long distance relationships. And long distance marriage came up, and they seemed oblivious.
Now here is my take, I see A LOT of Nigerian men settle their families abroad and stay here to hustle. The question on my mind is WHY? Is it for the fame? Is it to tell your peers that you can afford earning naira and spending dollars/pounds/euros? Is it just for the papers? Is it for the “papers”? Why, Nigerian men, why?

     It really makes no sense to me. Incase you forget, God pitied Adam seeing that he was alone while other creatures were in pairs and created Eve for him. Now you send your Eve abroad, and you say “it is for convinience”? How about the cold nights? How about the healing embrace of your partner in difficult moments? How about if the kids fall sick, and that woman has to tend to them all alone over there (money isnot everything)? In the meantime, you are smiling like a goat being roasted in “Caro’s” arms (wizkid’s version of Caro ie). If you can spend so much money maintaining/sustaining/ your family abroad, why not let them enjoy that same luxury under your supervision, so your children can feel your presence/comfort/protection and grow up to be balanced?

Do not lie.Its true that they’d be refined and “better off” abroad, dear Nigerian men, but the unspoken truth is that it gives you the chance to philander!

Oh well, who am I to judge you? Or better still what do I know? I doubt I do knoww much, but I’m certain I’m against long distance marriages. Someone school me! Lol

*the cup is always half full*

WHEN YOUR FRIEND SHIP SINKS

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It is very easy to detect when someone is withdrawing the friendship they offered you. But often we are too blind to see. Most times, the problem is even not blindness it’s  D enial. We spend time making excuses for them, over analysing the details and blaming circumstances instead of telling ourselves, and sometimes them the truth.

It begins with baby steps. Just as easily as you granted them admission into your space, into your entourage, into your inner circle, into your heart, they ease themselves out when they feel like they’ve had enough of you.

 

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A lot of times it’s hard to deal with broken friendships because when the going was good, the bond gave us strength. They were a good support link. They helped you when you were down, and you took pleasure in being there for them. But what if it turns toxic?
What if you suddenly can’t predict them anymore, can’t understand their tantrums, can’t comprehend the distance they give you? Yes the void will be hurtful at first. Yes it will leave you with many unanswered questions. Yes it will break your heart and leave a sour taste in your mouth. But there is a time of letting go.

When friendship no longer lifts you up, when your friend doesn’t want to be crazy with you anymore, when endless haphazard, random gist turns to monosyllabic replies, when calls don’t get answered or returned, when how are you isn’t answered with more than just fine, when you hear about them from someone else, and I can keep this list going on for days, it’s time to say goodbye. Don’t waste your time being sullen or bitter, stop to think “what did I learn from this?” And don’t try to make them stay- their part in your story just may be over. Don’t try to make them stay. Train yourself to not speak I’ll of them just because you are hurt. Remember,

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That’s your food for thought. Until next time, remember the cup is alwaaaaaAys half full.
Happy easter peoplea

EPIPHANY

And so death struck again. To Nigeria, it may be the first major blow nation wide, but to me, its the 3rd jolt to reality death-wise in 2013.
First there was Musa. Let me tell u about Musa. He was my bestie’s gateman. He was jovial. He was very serviceable- not just to his master family, but to virtually every household on my street. Did I mention he was the most popular mallam? It was common to hear passers-by wave or shout salutation to him. It was 2nd of January 2013 morning. My mum called me and said “musa is dead”. I rushed out and saw a crowd in front of Taiwo’s house. The harsh harmattan that morning made the reality even more grim. That was the first wake up call.
Not long after that, was my friend’s dad’s turn. Rev Ositelu, a sports commissioner and well known clergyman in Lagos state kicked the bucket. I had been chatting with his heart throb that night when she intercepted the conversation to say “Bunmi’s dad is dead!” I went 😮 ! I was shocked. I didn’t know how to comfort my friend. Even the jokes I used to tickle him with had no effect this time around. Death is harsh, I tell you. However, he is a strong black man,and is bouncing back impressingly.

Then came (should I say went?) Goldie. Personally, I loved her eccentric personality. She was Naija’s lady Gaga. I was quite confused at the start of Big Brother star game,as to her vulnerable and excessively emotional personality which she portrayed. Because it contrasted her stage personality totally. But at the end of the day, I got to accept her for what she really was (I believe you can’t pretend for that long,and that well). Her latest song was a hit in MY HOUSE as my little niece won’t stop singing “skibobo, skibobo” in her high pitched-d voice all around the house while trying to immitate Goldie’s dance steps. Sadly, she exits earth just when she is about to blossom in fullness and really explode.
I’m not interested in the causes of their demise. I’m jolted to reality by the message their passing-on screams in my head.
>Love people while they still linger around in all the ways you can. They won’t be around forever. (I console myself with the fact that I used to tip Musa once in a while. Lol)
>Give your life to Christ. He is the only assurance of better things ahead in the great beyond.
>Be accepting of people and help them when they beseech you. I read a tribute to Goldie,and I scorned (read here: http://ientertainmentng.blogspot.com/2013/02/goldie-we-didnt-take-you-seriously-we.html?m=1 ). To me,that’s selling after the market. Why cry over spilt milk?!

Ok,so I just realised this is my first post in 2013. Life happens! Accept my sincere happy new year greetings! I love y’all. Be kind to one another,and yourselves. :*

yaaaay!

hey y’all!

Yes  i said yaaaaay! Because i cant believe im finally in November. October was unusually long!

I woke up in good spirits this morning, feeling very happy inside,and thinking good thoughts towards those  i know and love.

I also revitalised my spirit man; and im hear to share with you what i downloaded into my soul…

Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.    Matthew 6;34

I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me. Philippians 4;13

There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.   1Corinthians 10;13

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose

Romans 8:28

and finally,

Boast not thyself of to morrow; for thou knowest not what a day may bring forth. proverbs 27;1

I can summarise this all as: BE POLITE

BE HAPPY

BE SMART.

BE HOPEFUL

Its november. Time to review what the year threw at us, restructure our objectives and adjust ourselves to accomplish our goals set for 2012 just before it runs out.

God is faithful people. And he is able too. It is what it is, deal with it and trust in Him without faltering.

Above all, DONT WORRY,BE HAPPY!

I LOVE YOU!