Archive | April 2014



Happy new week, Les gens!
I came across something today, it is food for thought, and I will be selfish if I don’t share this with you. If I am to spend some time on an island, and I’m asked to bring just one item with me, I won’t think twice before answering “my phone!”.    Don’t lie, because that is exactly what you’d say.
No chake (check) am now! (ibo accent). My phone has a bible, a dictionary, multiple social media, HD apps, books -in fact a library, and the list goes on. I’d like you to read the following text, ponder, and then make adjustments! Enjoy! The cup is always half full!!

    ” This is the paradox of our times.
We have taller buildings, but shorter tempers
Wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints
We spend more, but we have less.
We have bigger houses, but smaller families
More conveniences, but less time.
We have more degrees, but less sense
More knowledge, but less judgment
More experts, but more problems
More medicines, but less wellness.
We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values.
We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often
We have learnt how to make a living, but not a life.
We have added years to life, but not life to years.
We’ve been all the way to the moon and back
But have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbor.
We have conquered outer space, but not inner space.
We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted our soul.
We’ve split the atom, but not our prejudice.
We’ve higher incomes, but lower morals.
We’ve become long on quantity but short on quality.
These are the times of tall men, and short character;
Steep profits, and shallow relationships.
These are the times of world peace, but domestic warfare,
More leisure, but less fun; more kinds of food, but less nutrition.
These are the days of two incomes, but more divorces;
Of fancier houses, but broken homes.
It is a time when there is much in the show window, and nothing in the stockroom.
A time when technology can bring this letter to you,
And a time when you can choose,
Either to change… or just hit, delete.”

-Dr. Bob Moorehead



Hey y’all how you doing (Wendy Williams’ voice and gesture)? Hope you did rest sufficiently during the holiday. I know some people partied so hard, they literally called Tuesday Monday!
Well well,unto the business of the day, I was watching moments with mo, and the topic was long distance relationships. And long distance marriage came up, and they seemed oblivious.
Now here is my take, I see A LOT of Nigerian men settle their families abroad and stay here to hustle. The question on my mind is WHY? Is it for the fame? Is it to tell your peers that you can afford earning naira and spending dollars/pounds/euros? Is it just for the papers? Is it for the “papers”? Why, Nigerian men, why?

     It really makes no sense to me. Incase you forget, God pitied Adam seeing that he was alone while other creatures were in pairs and created Eve for him. Now you send your Eve abroad, and you say “it is for convinience”? How about the cold nights? How about the healing embrace of your partner in difficult moments? How about if the kids fall sick, and that woman has to tend to them all alone over there (money isnot everything)? In the meantime, you are smiling like a goat being roasted in “Caro’s” arms (wizkid’s version of Caro ie). If you can spend so much money maintaining/sustaining/ your family abroad, why not let them enjoy that same luxury under your supervision, so your children can feel your presence/comfort/protection and grow up to be balanced?

Do not lie.Its true that they’d be refined and “better off” abroad, dear Nigerian men, but the unspoken truth is that it gives you the chance to philander!

Oh well, who am I to judge you? Or better still what do I know? I doubt I do knoww much, but I’m certain I’m against long distance marriages. Someone school me! Lol

*the cup is always half full*



It is very easy to detect when someone is withdrawing the friendship they offered you. But often we are too blind to see. Most times, the problem is even not blindness it’s  D enial. We spend time making excuses for them, over analysing the details and blaming circumstances instead of telling ourselves, and sometimes them the truth.

It begins with baby steps. Just as easily as you granted them admission into your space, into your entourage, into your inner circle, into your heart, they ease themselves out when they feel like they’ve had enough of you.



A lot of times it’s hard to deal with broken friendships because when the going was good, the bond gave us strength. They were a good support link. They helped you when you were down, and you took pleasure in being there for them. But what if it turns toxic?
What if you suddenly can’t predict them anymore, can’t understand their tantrums, can’t comprehend the distance they give you? Yes the void will be hurtful at first. Yes it will leave you with many unanswered questions. Yes it will break your heart and leave a sour taste in your mouth. But there is a time of letting go.

When friendship no longer lifts you up, when your friend doesn’t want to be crazy with you anymore, when endless haphazard, random gist turns to monosyllabic replies, when calls don’t get answered or returned, when how are you isn’t answered with more than just fine, when you hear about them from someone else, and I can keep this list going on for days, it’s time to say goodbye. Don’t waste your time being sullen or bitter, stop to think “what did I learn from this?” And don’t try to make them stay- their part in your story just may be over. Don’t try to make them stay. Train yourself to not speak I’ll of them just because you are hurt. Remember,


That’s your food for thought. Until next time, remember the cup is alwaaaaaAys half full.
Happy easter peoplea